Told not together because we dont live together = dumped?

I'm sorry that your husband has done this to you. if you run into him or his friends just keep walking. There is no need for you to put yourself in more misery. Also let your lawyer handle all contact from him for now on. Its obvious that he has decided to leave that life he had with you behind. If you made any contact with him he might try to get you to do anything he wants and you don't need that either. Good luck and I hope things will become better for you soon.